Have you been following the #YesAllWomen (and #NotAllMen) hashtags on Twitter? Well... it has happened... there is now a #YesAllMen hashtag. No, really. It exists and misguided men are actually using it to air their grievances with women.
I compiled some of the most ridiculous tweets here.
I disagreed with #NotAllMen - not because I think that ALL men are bad - but because it's not about men. It's about women. It's about our experiences as women at the hands of men (not all men, but enough) and our patriarchal society and rape culture in general.
However, I at least understood the reason why some men latched onto that hashtag.
It's hard to be told that the group you belong to is doing something wrong and sometimes the gut reaction is to say "but... but... I'M not like that!" Sometimes it's true, you're not. And sometimes, you don't even know you're like that because it's not about YOU, it's about society. And even when you THINK you're being a good guy, you might be contributing to that overall culture without even knowing it. What these men should be doing is listening and learning, not defending and derailing, but at least I understand the instinct to want to defend yourself/your gender.
hashtag infuriates me though. Like FLAMES ON THE SIDE OF MY FACE angry. It
pisses me off for a few reasons. It not only derails the conversation
about sexism, oppression of women, and violence against women... but the
men using this hashtag are actually trying to pretend that the
struggles they're facing are as bad as (or even similar at all) to those women
experience on a daily basis. Yes, all women.