I know everyone has their own feelings about what happened and these are strong feelings. I do as well. I'm not even going to get into the intricacies of the racial tensions in Missouri, the alleged corruption in the Ferguson police department, or the seemingly bizarre way that the district attorney's office chose to present the case to the grand jury. I'm not. I could say a lot on all of that, but that's not the issue. You are allowed to disagree or agree with the grand jury's decision but you're not allowed to be a racist asshole.
I could have easily gone off on this person but I bit my tongue out of respect for everyone else there. That's not to say I backed down. I most certainly did not. I gave facts and statistics. I talked about the way the legal system works (and is supposed to work). I reminded everyone that the mainstream media rarely puts forward the full, true story. I refrained from yelling about what a racist asshole he was being and kept it strictly to facts, not opinions. I even acknowledged the possibility that some of what he was saying was correct (and only reminded him that we can't really know and shouldn't go based entirely on what the TV says). But when I finally got pissed off, like really pissed off, was when the discussion turned to the problems with black people in general.
|#TBT of me and my daughter|
I am still thankful for all that I have. I am thankful that I have the right to have a child "out of wedlock" and not be looked down on by most people. And I am thankful that I have the right to not give a shit if you do look down on me. And I am even thankful for the freedom of speech, so that assholes like him can say fucked up things like that to me and I can say how fucking wrong they are right here. I am thankful that my half-Latina daughter was born with light skin and light hair, so she will always benefit from a certain level of privilege that her cousins might not. And I am dedicated to making sure that she realizes that every day.
Happy Thanksgiving everyone. For the rest of the holidays this year and next, I hope you remember to be respectful to those who have opened their homes to you for the holidays. And everyday I hope you will remember that the world out there is more complicated than the little world you live in... so have an open mind and don't just spout nonsense you heard on TV unless you know what you're talking about. And most importantly, please be grateful for all that you have - both the privileges that you were lucky enough to have been born with and the rewards that you earned.
Today I am going to hug my daughter tight and thank god that I have her (and that she is alive and well and safe). I suggest you all do the same.